God’s Design for Christian Dating

I tried to find in the Bible where they talk about dating.  I keep finding where men and women were betrothed to one another, but dating…not so much.  So that put me on a mission to find out what it meant to be betrothed to someone.

Betrothed has two definitions. The first is where one has been contracted to be married to another and the other definition is where marriage is the intent of the relationship.  This whole idea of dating someone just for the sake of dating someone is completely something that was created by us.

Exodus 22:16
And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his wife.

God never intended for us to sleep around with each other.  Obviously, we are no longer betrothed to each other.  However, God’s design for Christian dating is for us to remain abstinent during the time that we are dating.  God fully intended intercourse to be for those that are married.

1 Corinthians 7:2-4

King James Version (KJV)

²Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

³Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

⁴The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

This is very powerful in the sense that it tells us to avoid fornication.  As Christians we know the many scriptures that consider fornication a sin.  This scripture is talking about intercourse between husband and wife only.  If you are not married, then for you to have intercourse is a sin before God.

Dating is something that we all do; however as Christians that are dating it is important to remember the word of God and to know that in order to be obedient we must not fornicate.  There is absolutely no way to get around it.

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Bible Study For Single Christians

Bible study for single Christians is absolutely vital.  As a single Christian it can be tremendously difficult to stay focused on the word of God when there are so many distractions and no one to hold you accountable on a day to day basis.  Sometimes we need that little extra push to remember to keep God first at all times.

Bible study for single Christians can prove to be absolutely invaluable in the sense that as a single Christian you can devote all that you have to the gospel without having to worry about your spouse.  This is a time when you have the opportunity to grow in your relationship with God through Jesus Christ.  Make your Bible study something that you do daily.  Jesus is with you every day, all day so you should be able to dedicate at least a part of your day to Jesus without distraction and without interruption.  It is the very least that you can do as a Christian.

Any true Christian will tell you the value of self Bible study.  It is something that can’t be substituted by any amount of sermons, ministry meetings, or fellowships.  Although all of these have great value, it is not to take anything away from any of them and I personally recommend each and every one of them, they can’t compare to self Bible study.

I can’t tell you enough how critical Bible Study for single Christians can be in developing themselves as to who God created you to be before entering into any type of serious relationship or marriage.  If you don’t take the time to study who you really are, then you run the serious risk of allowing someone else to define who you  are or who you should be.

Psalm 139:14

King James Version (KJV)

¹⁴I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

Know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and don’t allow someone else to tell you any differently.  The only way that is possible is through self Bible study.

Psalm 139:14

King James Version (KJV)

¹⁴I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

Know that you are fearfully and wonderfully made and don’t allow someone else to tell you any differently.  The only way that is possible is through self Bible study.

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Some Basic Premarital Christian Counseling Questions Prior To A Relationship

As a Christian couple, there are some basic premarital Christian counseling questions that you may want to consider prior to making the decision to be a serious couple.

1.       Is Jesus the Lord and Savior of your life?  You may say, well of course.  But remember to some He is just a prophet and not necessarily Lord and Savior.  There is an enormous difference, if you have children, how will you explain Jesus to them?

2.      Do you have values that are in conflict with each other and more importantly with the word of God? What are they?  How will you change them according to the word of God?

3.      What about traditions and holidays?  What are acceptable to you or not acceptable?

4.      Do you believe in what the Bible says about unmarried people?

5.      What about abstinence during your relationship?  Have you already committed fornication?  Are you willing to stop and ask forgiveness?

2 Timothy 2:15

King James Version (KJV)

¹⁵Study to shew thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth.

This verse is talking about the word of God, but it can also be applied to those in a relationship with another.  It can mean that you must study each other.  I know that this is a very short list of questions, but they all serve as a great importance.  As you begin to ask these questions and several more questions that will arise during your discussions you will get closer to Jesus and also to each other.

Take the time to answer all questions honestly and completely for each other and before God.  Remember, God only put two people together.  For the rest of us, it was done my our own free will so it is up to you to ask some basic premarital Christian counseling questions of yourself.  Hopefully, you will do it sooner rather than later then continually throughout your relationship.  Learn the answers before you become too deeply involved with one another.

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Church Is Not A Spectator’s Sport

It’s time for Christians to get in the game and stop shouting from the stands. If you have ever been to a professional sporting event or seen one on TV, then you know that fans (spectators) are notorious for sitting in their seats and shouting to the players who are on the field, how the game should or should not be played.

You hear statements such as: “I can’t believe they did that.” or “How could you miss that shot.” And for a sporting event, it’s normal for the spectators to stay in their seats during the game and not involve themselves. You will never be watching a football game on TV and see one of the players fumble the ball and then all of a sudden a spectator jumps out of their seat and rushes onto the field to pick up the ball and help the team out.

Unfortunately, the same often applies to the church. So many of us are too busy sitting on the pew from the sidelines, quick to criticize and complain about the way the game is being played when instead, we should be getting involved in the game to help out our Christian team (The Church)

Remember, just like in a sporting event, each player has special skills and talents which they contribute to the team in order to help them score a goal and achieve their mission, and the same also applies to Christians. Whatever your special skills or talents are, start putting them to good use for your church team, and get out of that pew and begin being an active player instead of just a spectator. You CAN make a difference!!! (1 Corinthians 9:24-25)

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What Does The Bible Say About Marriage

As a single Christian that is looking to get married, you should be very concerned with not only what the Bible says about being single, but also about what it says about marriage. I am a firm believer that if more Christians would simply study the word of God and what it says about how a man and woman are to be married, the divorce rate would plummet.
It is not to say that all of a sudden divorces would cease to exist. It is just that as single Christians, you have a opportunity to know what Jesus expects before you agree to enter into matrimony with someone else. If it is your desire to be married then may I suggest that you study Ephesians.
Ephesians 5:21-33
King James Version (KJV)

21Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
22Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,

This is only the first part of it. I highly suggest that you study the rest of the chapter. There are many other scriptures specific to marriage. Study them as a single Christian so that you will be better prepared if you do become married. If you have a significant other, study both together and separately. Know what the Bible has to say about marriage and not the world. Find your answers in the word. Allow the scriptures to speak to your through the power of the Holy Spirit.

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